We Can Do Hard Things

Mindfulness & Self-Compassion

Artwork: Edward Hopper

Good morning beautiful people,

I hope that you are safe and healthy, wherever you are in the world.

I am writing to you expecting to give birth any day now, hospital bag ready yet feeling no sign of contractions.

“Your baby is late” is what I keep hearing for the past two days and at first, it made me anxious, seeing myself pregnant forever and truth be told, also not knowing how I will part from this amazing experience.

Then it dwelled on me that no one or no thing is ever “late” to come to life. And I relaxed.

The past nine months have not always been easy but what a blessing they have been. I became conscious of the mystery behind fertility and how no mind can truly make sense of it.

Author Glennon Doyle keeps repeating in her book Untamed: “We Can Do Hard Things.”

She goes on to write: “ If you are uncomfortable – in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused- you don’t have a problem, you have a life. Being human is not hard because you are doing it wrong. It’s hard because you are doing it right. You will never change the fact that being human is hard, so you must change your idea that being human is easy.”

Reading this quote and sharing it with you here, gives me a smile because it makes me feel relieved.

We are probably the lucky few who have a roof on top of our head, yet, lets not undermine what gives us pain, grief and discomfort.

Is acceptance the best ingredient for a peaceful recipe then?

Probably yes.

We seem to forget that everything is impermanent, so the joy I felt today, may indeed turn back into anxiety tomorrow, who knows.

Yet, questioning the thoughts that are hurting me, is always an option.

This is my wish for us all today:

That we take the time to breath and question the thoughts that are giving us pain, remembering that We Can Do Hard Things.

Again, your comments, replies, and prayers for a smooth delivery are always a pleasure, so don’t be shy.

With Love and Deep Respect,

Vanessa

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